First off, women know you are interested in them. Attractive women simply expect to get hit on. The cool thing is most guys assume she doesn’t want to be hit on and keep their mouths shut.

This is a very big mistake. And a great opportunity for guys with the guts to say something.

I have found on many many occasions just a simple icebreaker opened the floodgates with an attractive woman who was obviously happy I actually said something.

They are waiting for you to make your move.

So if you are not saying anything to the women around then you are missing out on opportunity everywhere you go.

Here is the icebreaker:

Very often women will look a lot like someone I have known in the past. I approach them with the intent to verify that they are or are not that person.

Me: “Hey you look really familiar. Did you go to [college
name]?

She will either say yes or no. Regardless you say…

Me: Your name is Jill right?

Its usually not but thats when you can start to have some
fun with it.

Her: No its Michelle.
Me: Jill stop messing with me. [little knowing smile]
Her: No I’m serious!
Me: Are you hiding from the mob? Jill, I’m worried about you.
Her: haha
Me: That and you owe me 10 bucks.

Bam! You have a fun conversation started.You can say she must have a twin or something. You can ask her where she actually went to college. You can say if she buys you a drink you can consider her debt paid. You could even say “Okay that was my lame attempt at flirting, my names blah blah”

Lots of options from there.

But the conversation is now rolling.

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I learned a little secret that I am going to share with you today about gauging her level of interest and attraction. Of course human beings are not an exact science but this seems to be pretty accurate for me so I think it’s worth sharing. I call it the Flake Test.

Okay, let’s say you call her up or you are talking to her in person and you mention a cool date idea that you would like to do with her. Now let’s say she comes up with some excuse for why she can’t make it. It may either be a real reason or something made up but there is an easy way to tell if she’s blowing you off. It’s in the things she says the moment after she gives her excuse.

If she leaves the door open for a future meet then you can safely assume she is still interested and attracted to you.

She may say something like “Well Thursday is bad for me but I am free Sunday.” or “Not Thursday but how about sometime next week?” Obviously there is a difference in that and “I can’t make it that day but thanks for the invite.” That’s a closed ended response. Move on.

Women who really like you will usually try to give you a chance to see them again or hint that they are interested in you giving it another shot. Don’t assume that just because she gave you an excuse that she is not interested. You need to look at the entire interaction. Was she touching you while you talked? Did she laugh at your stupid jokes? Did she carry the conversation when there was silence?

If you had any of these things going on in your interaction then don’t let her excuse stop you from trying again. And if she leaves the door open for a future date then you better follow up with her because she is still interested. The bottom line is this… A woman who likes you will find a way to hang out with you. Period.

The women in their lives ALWAYS seem to be attracted to jerks.

And what makes it worse is usually the women they are speaking of are very smart, very kind and very beautiful women.

Its baffling that they allow themselves to be repeatedly hurt by selfish, arrogant A$$holes. The logic behind these women’s decisions are lost on most men.

BUT….

When you get it… and I mean TRULY get it…the game changes. When you see below the surface of what these men are doing and how it affects these women…

and how you can also have the same results and NOT be a jerk…

Then life starts getting interesting.

Let me ask you something…

Have you ever had a woman give you the “Lets just be friends” talk?

And she went on and on about how you are soooo sweet and sooooo nice and she doesnt want to ruin a good thing?

Then this same woman turns around a dates a man that treated her like garbage?

It really sucks.

Well its not that you are a nice guy that’s killing her attraction. Lets get that straight. NEVER change who you are for a woman. That should be
rule #1.

What you need to change is your interactions with these women. You are obviously doing something that is KILLING her attraction. Its not you, it’s the traits you are displaying that is doing it.

Or more precisely, you are doing something that is not allowing her unconscious attraction switches to flip on.

Remember, Attraction to you is something 100% out of her control. Getting mad at a woman for not being attracted to you is like getting mad at the sun for giving you a sunburn.

It’s most likely your fault. And it’s totally preventable.

So let’s talk about how to be a “Nice Jerk.”

First off you need to remind yourself that your attraction wiring is very different than a woman’s.

Deep within a man’s nervous system are very real, very biological reasons for why he feels attraction to women.

And deep within a woman’s nervous system is a very real, YET VERY DIFFERENT biological reason for her attraction.

So the first thing you need to do is separate the two.

Boiled down to its biological essence, you want many hot, attractive women. That is what is driving your genes to survive. Yes, you may also want connection with one woman, but that inherent drive to mate with as many attractive women as possible will always be inside you.

Just admit it and we can move forward. Good.

Women want the ONE most socially dominant, ableand ALPHA man out of a group of available men. Yes women date, sleep with and marry spineless wusses all the time but her attraction will ALWAYS be geared towards the men who fire off this natural biological response in her.

(and these wusses will never have her respect or deep level attraction… his wallet perhaps… but not her attraction)

The key to changing your success with women lies in understanding how to telegraph to a woman that you are a powerful, ALPHA option for her.

The great thing is, it has nothing to do with physical prowess or a perfect face. Here are a few things you can do IMMEDIATELY to show her you are an ALPHA option… and set off her attraction wiring like a handful of firecrackers.

1. Don’t be too available

Think about it. The Alpha option has many women fighting for his attention and affection. He simply does not have time for every woman that finds him attractive. If you are the type of guy who drops everything and changes his plans for a woman then
STOP it immediately. Women sense this over-availability in you and its unnattractive.

Women want a man whose world does not revolve around them.

2. Learn how to subtly direct the conversation

If you get in a conversation with a woman and find yourself talking about things that bore you, or pretending to be someone you are not around her, simply to impress her, then you are NOT being in control and her subconscious reads this instantly.

Don’t be too agreeable and polite. Speak openly and honestly with her about everything. Never be ashamed for the things you believe or enjoy.

3. Get her off the pedestal

The Alpha option sees beauty as common and something that is easily available to him. A man who fawns and dotes on a woman just because she is attractive is going to do the opposite of what WORKS.

The best method for telegraphing that you are keeping her off the pedestal is to learn how to use humor in a way that builds attraction. Its about teasing her and showing her that you don’t see her her beauty as anything special…

You are not giving value to her just because she is hot.

Now think about this…

The jerks that seem to get women are not attracting the women because they are mean and abusive. They are showing traits of this Alpha male and the woman is uncontrollably attracted.

So many guys miss this fact and mistakenly assume its the negative traits that are pulling women to them like a magnet.

But its actually the closely related attributes like his unpredictability, his lack of neediness and his cocky sense of humor that is what is working.

The abusive/arrogant aspect is a sad truth to many successful ladies men. And it sucks when you have so much you can give a woman, but you just aren’t sparking attraction in them.

Well its time to see that the two worlds CAN co-exist. You can be a loving, kind man and STILL get hot women to melt around you.

If you begin to creatively and subtly express these traits in your interactions with women you will notice an INSTANT change.

I want you to put these Alpha traits into action the next time you meet a woman and let me know how it goes!

There is no point in flirting until you get her interested in talking with you.

Its important to know how to talk with a woman in an engaging way. Here is what I think is the most critical aspect of the first stages of a conversation.

Ask open ended questions

Have you ever been in a conversation with a woman and it felt like you were interviewing her..

You: So where are you from?
Her: Chicago
You: Cool. Did you go to school there?
Her: Yes.
You: Cool so what did you study?
Her: Psychology.
You: Wow that’s great. When did you graduate?
Her: Sorry but I have to go now.
You: Okay. Bye.

Does this sort of thing sound familiar?

Instead do something like this:

You: So where are you from?
Her: Chicago.
You: I hear Chicago rocks! What was your favorite part
about living there?
Her: I really loved it in the summers. Lake Michigan
is so beautiful.
You: I bet. I hear the winters are brutal though.
Her: Oh they are terrible.
You: Doesnt it get like -20 or something?
Her: Yeah its ridiculous.
You: What do you do for fun when its that cold?
Her: Not much! Drink and stay inside!
You: and lots of hugging.
Her: Haha totally.
You: So is that why you moved away… cause you’re a
total wuss who couldn’t handle the cold? [smile]
Her: [smiles] No I moved here for my job.
You: I think its cause you’re a wuss.
Her: No! I’m awesome!
You: Or maybe you hate hugs.
Her: [laughs] Yeah I totally hate hugs.
[conversation continues]

As you can see this is the beginning of a real (and fun) conversation. When you start with open ended questions you get her opening up to you. They don’t all have to be open ended but most guys never ask even one, and just keep asking her questions “interview style.”

Boring!

The crazy thing is that the more a person talks about themselves, the more they seem to feel like they know you. This is proven in all kinds of research studies.

Of course you have to contribute to the conversation but you can see how open ended questions create real conversations that actually go somewhere.

This example conversation above is loaded with opportunity for flirting. But that’s a whole other topic entirely.

You just need to get her talking first. Don’t even let on you are interested in her until that point.

So there you have it…

If you ask questions that can be answered in simple yes or no answers then you are doing it all wrong.

Get her talking with open ended questions and then start the flirting process. Nice!

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I believe women experience sex in a way that us men with our
simple bodies and minds will never understand. Evolutionarily
speaking, women are more sexually advanced then us guys.

Need proof?

Women have a part of their bodies specifically designed for
pleasure. Were talking literally thousands more nerve endings
than a man. It’s as if nature knew the importance of women
thoroughly enjoying the act.

This stuff is well documented so I won’t waste a lot of time
with it.

What I do want to talk about is the EASE at which you as
a man can fire off sexual attraction in a woman. Just like I
believe nature installed thousands of nerves in one tiny
little place on her body for a purpose… I also believe that
a woman’s mind is more geared toward sex as well.

If you learn the “rules” to communicating sexually with her
mind, then she is biologically guaranteed to feel attraction
for you.

So you should be focusing on communicating with that part
of her mind first and let nature do its thing and create massive
attraction for you.

Think about this for a second…

Lets say you are on a date with a woman.

Nature WANTS you and her to hook up. Your genes are
very selfish little things indeed and actually rely on you two
feeling a sexual chemistry for them to pass on.

Once you learn the code to her sexual attraction, then
it becomes effortless to get her to want to experience
this with you. Nature is on your side. You just have
to understand the “language” it speaks.

So what is the best way to fire off her sexual attraction
signals? What is the best way to communicate with her
deep level biology.

It all boils down to sexual tension.

If you cannot create sexual tension in a woman, her
brain will categorize you into the group of men who
“just don’t really interest me.”

She won’t understand why she isn’t attracted, but she
wont be and she will move on to a man who does know
how to build sexual tension. You can’t be mad at her.
You simply haven’t learned the keys to attraction yet.

First thing is first…

Stop communicating with her logically. Stop trying to
convince her to be attracted to you. Learn how to tease
in a way the builds attraction. Learn how to create
something I call “perceived roadblocks” to the idea of
you and her ever being together. Learn how to tell an
interesting story. Get out of the house and start doing
things that expand your comfort zone.

There are a million things you can do to increase your
chances with women. But few are more powerful then
building sexual tension with powerful flirting. Work on
this or suffer the consequences.